Imagine that you are a jigsaw puzzle. People close to you – family, friends, acquaintances – all have a piece of you. Some one tiny bit, some a lot.
A few have wrong parts that don’t fit the picture.
There comes a moment – sooner or later – that you should be able to tell whether someone comes with a right, or wrong bit. It can be quite frustrating when somebody repeatedly tries to fix a wrong piece into the whole.
That feels like being given the cold shoulder, being ignored, denied as you are.
It is desirable to improve your view of the image the puzzle makes. Hopefully you reach a point after which it doesn’t matter if someone doesn’t know you well. Stay open to different views though.